• Were you speaking for them?  Ignoring them?
• Approaching them suddenly or from behind?
• Rushing them?
• Were you being vague or unclear?
• Expecting perfection or consistency?
• Were you arguing, correcting, criticizing, saying something like, "don't you remember I told you...?"
• Using "reality orientation"?
• Asking for factual information or "quizzing" them?
• Going on and on with logical explanations for whatever?
• Bossing them around or treating them like a child?